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How do you choose the best mattress for sex?
Most of us choose a mattress that's the most comfortable to sleep on. 😴
This makes sense, of course.
You spend a third of your life sleeping, so it's important to get a mattress that matches your sleep needs perfectly.
But while some only use their mattress for sleeping, there are just as many who spend a good chunk of time in bed doing other things.
- You may be an avid reader or enjoy catching up on the latest Netflix shows. 📺
- You may enjoy lounging on your bed chatting on the phone. ☎️
- Sometimes, you even want to sit on your bed and look through photographs, write in your journal, or do any other admin-type activity. 📗
And most people would probably also use their mattress for quality time with a significant other.
Ultimately, you need a mattress that fulfils its core function of providing a comfortable and supportive base for sleeping.
But you also need your mattress to meet all your other requirements. 👌
So what should you pay attention to when choosing a bed for sex?
There are a few important factors to consider.
These include bounce & responsiveness, temperature, noise, firmness, support, and durability.
We'll take you through all of these in the following sections. 👇
Firmness & edge support: How your mattress supports you
There are dozens of different mattress firmness options.
Firmness is primarily a matter of personal preference, but your body weight and sleeping position play a role. 🤔
- Lighter-weight people and side sleepers will sleep better on softer mattresses.
- Heavier-weight people or back sleepers & stomach sleepers will do better on firmer mattresses.
When choosing the right degree of firmness for sleeping, you need to consider both comfort and optimal spinal alignment. 🦴
But how do you choose the right firmness level for sex?
Since sexual activity usually requires quite a bit of movement, you want a mattress that's firm and supportive enough but also soft and comfortable.
We'd recommend that you choose a medium-firm mattress.
In our mattress reviews, you can look at mattresses rated between 5 - 7.5 out of 10 on the Sleep Hero firmness scale, where 1 is the softest and 10 is the firmest. 🥳
The Simba Hybrid, for example, has a firmness rating of 6, making it the ideal firmness for sex.
You don't want a mattress that's too soft; otherwise, it'll feel like you're sinking into the material, and you won't have freedom of movement.
But if you have a mattress that's too firm, you'll lack responsiveness and comfort. 😔
Ultimately, the ideal mattress for sex will be both comfortable and incredibly supportive to carry you and your partner during sexual activity.
What about edge support?
Importantly, you need your ideal mattress for sex to offer edge-to-edge support.
Many of the modern-day bed-in-a-box mattresses - and especially foam mattresses - lack edge support.
This means that the mattress may feel firmer in the middle, but support will decrease as you go towards the edge of the bed. ⛰
A mattress with good edge support will support you no matter where you lie on the mattress - meaning you can enjoy the entire width of your bed! 👌
It also means that you and your partner won't ever feel like you'd be falling off the sides of the mattress.
Noise: How discreet do you want to be?
Sometimes, there is a need for discretion. 🤫
But even if there isn't, there's nothing worse than a noisy bed that squeaks with every movement.
The ideal mattress for sex will limit noise.
All-foam beds will generally be the quietest, while very bouncy and responsive spring mattresses tend to be noisier, especially if they're of lower quality. 🎵
Hybrid mattresses are a good compromise.
They feature pocketed coils and generally give you good bounce and responsiveness, but they also feature layers of foam, which help keep things quiet.
A high-quality pocket sprung mattress, perhaps even with a foam pillow top for extra comfort, is also a good choice. 👍
The Hypnia Supreme Hybrid mattress is an excellent hybrid option that combines pocket springs with a memory foam pillow top.
Which type of mattress material is best for sex?
We've mentioned mattress materials throughout this article and, by now, you should have a good indication of which mattress materials are best for sex. 💋
But let's look at this again in more detail:
|Memory foam mattresses:||Very comfortable, contouring, good pressure relief, quiet||Difficult to move around on; store body heat; generally lack edge support|
|Latex foam mattresses:||Comfortable, supportive, durable, breathable, and quiet||Natural latex is generally very expensive|
|Innerspring mattresses:||Supportive and breathable||Cheaper options can be excessively noisy|
|Pocket sprung mattresses:||Comfortable, supportive, durable, and breathable||Not available as bed-in-a-box options|
|Hybrid mattresses:||Comfortable, supportive, breathable, quiet||Will store more heat than pocket sprung mattresses but not as much as foam mattresses|
Unless you're adamant on foam or have the budget for a high-quality latex mattress, we'd suggest sticking to pocket sprung or hybrid mattresses. 🙌
These will offer you the best combination of support, comfort, breathability, and durability.
And this, in turn, makes them excellent mattresses for sexual activity.
They also happen to be great mattress choices to catch a good night's sleep. 💤
Which pillows are best for sex?
Choosing a good mattress for sex may be the most important, but don't forget that your pillows play a role too.
A good pillow not only supports your head but can also come in handy to spice up your sex life. 🔥
As Tim Ferriss explains at length in The Four Hour Body, certain positions would require you to lie on a firmer pillow to lift your hips - or other body parts.
So which pillow should you choose?
The Emma pillow contains individual layers of memory foam, and you can adjust both the height and the firmness of the pillow depending on how many layers you keep in the pillow cover. 🤩
This means that the pillow could prove very handy during sexual activity.
You could also try the Brightr Eclipse pillow, which is similar in style.
Read more about our favourite customisable pillows:
So what's the best mattress for sex?
There are several factors to consider when choosing the best mattress for sex.
Ultimately, you want a mattress that's:
- Bouncy and responsive
- Supportive but comfortable
We'd recommend that you opt for pocket sprung or hybrid mattresses. 👍
But, don't forget that you also need a quality mattress that will allow for a great night's sleep.
Any of our top mattress choices will be a great fit.