Why is finding a mattress for couples so difficult?
Finding the right mattress that's perfect for you is difficult enough. 🤯
Now imagine having to find the best mattress for two people!
That's the stuff nightmares are made of. 🧟♂️
So why is finding a mattress for couples so difficult?
Well, there are multiple reasons.
Let's explore. 👇
Finding the perfect mattress
If you want to buy the perfect mattress, you need to consider some things.
- Is the mattress snug and comfortable?
- Does the mattress support me well and allow for good spinal alignment, regardless of sleeping position?
- Can I move around with ease?
- Can I sleep comfortably, or do I feel too hot or cold in the bed?
- Is the mattress wide/long enough, and can I use all the available space?
Many of these depend on your build, weight, metabolism rate, and whether or not you're a restless sleeper. 🏃♀️
But the problem is that different people will have different body types and different preferences, changing their mattress requirements.
We're all unique and have different needs.
Let's look at a standard relationship:
- Women tend to be smaller and lighter and are more likely to feel cold more easily. 🙍♀️
- Men tend to be heavier, of larger build, and run at higher temperatures. 🙍♂️
If you're a 50 kg (110 lbs) woman who easily feels cold, your sleeping requirements will be very different to those of an 85 kg (187 lbs) man who sweats a lot.
You may prefer a soft memory foam mattress that hugs your body, while your partner would like a firmer mattress with pocketed coils that can better support his weight and temperature.
Enter mattress drama. 🤬
Unique problems of sharing a bed
But, there are even more factors to consider.
Let's continue the above example. 🤔
Say the man in the scenario is a very light sleeper - he wakes up at every sound, and even the slightest movements disturb him. 🕺
He generally falls into bed and sleeps in pretty much the same position all night long.
But the woman in our scenario is a very restless sleeper.
Perhaps she even struggles with Restless Legs Syndrome (RLS), which is more common in women than men, and she spends a good percentage of the night tossing and turning, trying to get comfortable.
Now let's say the couple has opted for an innerspring mattress that better supports her partner and keeps him cooler.
This is great as it meets his sleeping requirements.
But, innerspring mattresses tend to have higher motion transfer, so her constant tossing and turning keep her partner awake all night long.
And since the innerspring mattress is firmer and less comfortable for her, she's likely to toss and turn even more!
Both partners have trouble getting a good night's sleep and wake up cranky in the morning. 😖
That's the perfect recipe for a doomed relationship.
Maybe two beds are better
Considering the above, it's no wonder that so many couples end up choosing two single mattresses pushed together, perhaps even combined with a bed bridge or mattress topper to make it a tad more comfortable.
But couples also have unique needs.
- What about movie marathons with pizza and the kids or dogs?
- What about evening snuggles?
- What about sex?
Having two separate beds isn't the perfect solution either. 🤷♂️
It may sound like all doom and gloom, but there are mattresses that can meet both partners' sleep and comfort requirements.
You may just need to spend a bit more time searching for them. 🕵️♀️
And that's precisely why we're here.
So let's look at some of the aspects you need to consider when searching for the best mattress for couples.
Restless nights: Opt for good motion isolation
It's imperative that a couple's mattress has zero to low motion transfer.
But, what exactly does this mean?
Motion transfer refers to the amount of movement carried across a mattress.
So, it means how much movement you will feel on your side of the bed if your partner tosses and turns on the other side of the bed. 💃
Motion transfer can depend on the mattress's quality, but it's generally determined by the material the mattress is made of.
- Innerspring mattresses generally have very high motion transfer.
- Memory foam mattresses tend to have very low motion transfer.
But, this isn't always as straightforward. ➡️
The GhostBed mattress, for example, may consist of latex foam and memory foam, but it has comparatively high motion transfer.
Similarly, many high-quality pocket sprung mattresses have very low motion transfer.
Dormeo mattresses with Octaspring technology are just like pocket springs but are actually made from memory foam.
Motion transfer can also be affected by the top layer.
So, for example, a sprung mattress with a cushioning memory foam layer may offer enhanced motion isolation. 👌
The Brook + Wilde Lux mattress is an excellent example of this.
A memory foam topper can also change the sleeping surface and affect motion transfer - but this will also affect the overall feel of the mattress.
Regardless of material or composition, always choose a mattress with good motion isolation for a peaceful sleep.
Stability & durability: Choose a high-quality mattress
You should always buy a high-quality, durable mattress.
But this is even more important when you're sharing your bed with a partner! 🛌
It's quite simple, really:
A mattress is likely to wear out more quickly with the weight of two people than it would with the weight of one person.
If you're buying a cheaper, lower-quality mattress, you'll start experiencing decreasing support much quicker. 😔
And that's definitely not something you want!
Most of our top picks come with a 10-year warranty, and you can expect them to last for that long!
The Nectar mattress even comes with a lifetime guarantee, though we recommend replacing your mattress every 8 - 10 years.
What about stability?
If you're investing in a quality mattress made of high-density materials, you probably don't need to worry about stability.
This simply refers to how well a mattress can support you.
If, however, the mattress you've chosen isn't great, you could have some problems. 😳
Stability issues could result in:
- The heavier partner sinking into the mattress too much, causing the lighter partner to roll in that direction.
- Spinal misalignment.
- Increased backaches and pains.
- Uncomfortable sleep.
This is why choosing a mattress made of quality materials is so important. 👌
The actual material is less important than the quality of the material used:
- For all-foam mattresses, make sure the foams have a density of at least 35 kg/m³.
- For spring mattresses, make sure the smallest size mattress has at least 350 springs.
Also, look for mattresses with a good support or base layer. 👍
Cold foam and PUR foam are both excellent support materials.
Size: What is big enough?
There are dozens of UK mattress sizes, but couples should stick to the larger beds. 🛏
We'd highly recommend that couples don't go any smaller than a double size.
Good mattress sizes for couples include:
- Double mattresses: 135 x 190 cm (4'6" x 6'3")
- King size mattresses: 150 x 200 cm (5' x 6'6")
- Super-king-size mattresses: 180 x 200 cm (6’ x 6’6”)
- Emperor beds: 200 x 200 cm (6'6" x 6'6")
If you or your partner are of larger build, we'd suggest going for a super king-size bed. 👑
If you're both smaller, you can get away with a double mattress.
Even if you have an excellent mattress with low motion transfer and good edge support, you still want to have enough space to sleep comfortably without ever feeling restricted.
Interestingly, emperor beds are quite rare as bed-in-a-box mattresses in the UK.
If you're looking for an emperor-size mattress, the best option we've found is the Otty Hybrid.